Angry Teenager?
See a Real Change In Your Teen - Help Them Handle Strong Emotions
An angry teenager, or a teen that seems to explode into anger for no apparent reason, can be a real strain to even the most resilient parent.
It can help to think back to your own days as a teen – not to compare and criticize, but just to remind yourself about the turmoil and pressure.
Arguing With Your Angry Teenager
Do you seem to be constantly arguing with your teenager?
That’s pretty normal.
When you are in the middle of another argument with an angry teenager about curfews it can be hard to see the behavior as normal.
But, there it is.
Arguing with your teenager is all part of the process or maturity.
Your teen is growing up and breaking out of childhood into adulthood.
It’s a big adjustment for both of you.
Take heart from the fact that by arguing with you they are showing you a lot more respect than by lying to you about what they are up to behind your back.
The point is to try to keep turn your arguments into discussions.
5 Things To Remember When Arguing
Tip Number 1.
Try to avoid shouting and becoming overly emotional.
Your angry teenager loves drama and the real reason for a disagreement can be quickly lost if you allow yourself to be drawn into a shouting match.
Tip Number 2.
Yes, they will say hurtful things to you. Do not retaliate with your own insults.
It takes longer to mend the harm done by exchanging insults than any pain caused by the original disagreement.
Tip Number 3.
Sometimes you can “win the battle but lose the war”.
There is no point trying to win every argument or disagreement.
Stand firm on house rules and rules of safety and morals, but allow your teen to win smaller less important battles.
Tip Number 4.
Tell your teen when they have said or done something that is rude or hurtful.
They are still learning about being responsible for their behavior.
Just be careful now you phrase it.
Saying “You’ve really hurt my feelings so there is no way you are getting what you want” is manipulating your angry teenager.
Whereas, “I feel really hurt by what you’ve said. I think we’d better talk about this later when you’ve calmed down and can speak to me without being insulting” makes your feelings clear and leaves the situation open to be resolved.
Tip Number 5.
Always admit when you are wrong. Be truthful about it.
Don’t’ make excuses or try to blame it on something else. After all, this is exactly what you should expect of your teen.
Set a good example and at the same time show your teen you are human and not perfect.
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